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i have this workbook and textbook for therapists about client-therapist relationships. i randomly opened the workbook to the chapter on "inflexible interpersonal coping strategies"
here's a little exercise:
"Think of two or three significant people in your life. What do they do, if anything, to maintain their sense of "specialness" or neurotic pride? What do those mechanisms tend to evoke in you in relation to these people?"
i get this a lot. people making the argument that we are all the same. and it makes no sense to me. who has all the same experiences and therefore turns out the same as everybody else? sure we all want to be happy, but i'm pretty sure i want to be happy in my own special way. we all like chocolate is easy so it doesn't bother me. we all like looking at certain sunrises/sunsets is about the moment so ourselves have been removed from the equation.
besides my past is too unique to forget it and i am constantly trying to resolve all the changes i've had to go through. it IS work. i guess the difference is we can find common ground in coping, to a certain extent, but the work will feel different when you are doing it, or maybe i'm just an oddball that can't understand the royal "we" i don't pretend to know what's good about sports if i don't watch them, but i know why i don't like them when i try. i don't enjoy losing my ego in a crowd, and i won't do it. there's no benefit i'll lose everything to, essentially, nobody. i don't know if that's "specialness" or neurotic pride (maybe the latter) but i remember watching Sesame Street when i was kid and they told me everybody was special and i thought GOOD DEAL.
he thinks i'm a nobody but i'm not. as long as he keeps thinking that he will be offended by my existence and that is not a win for me.
you can argue that Cancer Sun is better than Leo Sun or Libra or Aquarius is better than Leo, but, even though you might feel that way, it is counterintuitive to me that a whole month's worth of people are inferior just like that. i mean, there are pros and cons, and i guess the Leo might resist the we-all proposition. too much ego gymnastics going on for it to be that easy.
and if you have a disorder, it doesn't help to think of that disorder as normal, does it?
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