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Ok, girl. You said this was going to be good, and it was only slightly good because it was you and because it was a blathe with my name on it. Please don't drag me back into this stupidity. Puuhlease?
I mean first off, how many times do you have to tell someone that you don't want to debate with them because you are both wordy and you would like people to actually be able to load up your page? How many times, in a so called CIVILIZED society should you have to ask another adult to stop arguing with you?
Don't get me wrong, I like an argument as much as the next guy. But if someone ASKS me to stop arguing with them, I usually take that as a sign that they are NOT enjoying the argument, or that I am bothering them.
Now I'll take my karma, don't get me wrong. And I'll play with these types if they really want to.
There is NO difference between what went on in daffy's_astrology_test_for_skeptics and the violence between two combatants in a schoolyard fight.
There was me, just fishing for a skeptic, (because most of the ones that would post have egos and intellects the size of brontosaurus turds.)
Then a skeptic (42 usc 1983) came along, and we could see how these intellectual bullies approach things.
Imagine that. My saying..in a random voice and to noone in particular.
"Hey skeptics! You're wrong." and here comes this rhino barreling across the Serengeti, horn down, lip curled into a sneer. Ready for battle. He paws at the ground and begins his barrage of words.
Who CARES what the words say? He thinks I do. But I'm not watching his words. I'm watching him. I'm watching what he's doing, examining and calculating the probable motives for those words. What he says? Again, who cares? It's the ENERGY that he puts out that is all that matters.
So we mirror the beast in order to bring these behaviors more to the front. We behave like he does, worse.
We do this to allow him the chance to slip, show any weaknesses, like his reliance on the support of others in order for him to feel secure (ala the call to stork for help toward the end, the quickly dissipating bravado as fewer people piped in on his "side" of the "argument".)
He responds, because animals respond to more dominant creatures by reassessing the situation. He reassesses the situation and his banter gets only slightly less agressive. In a low growl (which says, don't mess with me), he aquiesces.
Then, in the ultimate act of trust, we offer our outstretched hand. We then we turn to leave. This is when the animal sees his opportunity. So he strikes again, given courage by our apparent display of weakness.
This time, we am done. The demonstration is over and the beast still has no idea it was being put on display. It continues barking and posturing, stiff legged and territorial as hell. I walk away. It sees this as a further sign of weakness. An opportunity.
So like a dog that chases someone to bite them after they've left, usc decides that the coast is clear and comes back with more posturing words. Words to show that HE indeed came out on top. (imagine your dog scratching the dirt behind him in a show of male dominant victory.)
Why am I not feeling like sticking around Aimee? Well I am of course. Just wanted to see what our subject would do when given the opportunity to be a man, or an animal. When the hand was extended...he chose to unwind with hostility rather than make peace.
And this is really what I've been trying to tell folks about. This tendency to act out hostile, animalistic behaviors, and not recognize them because they are hidden behind the facade of intellect and wit.
There IS no difference between brutalizing another's intellect and beating them up.
There IS no difference between terrorizing another's feelings for your own amusement and raping someone.
There IS no difference between arguing and combat sport.
So look. I know some of you out there may think this a bizarre notion, but try it some time.
Walk into a room and make a very bold statement in as arrogant a tone as you can muster. The ones that respond politely, without fear? Human heroes.
The ones that jump up like dogs called to dinner? Human animals whose appetites have suddenly been whet by the smell of a fresh challenge, or a potential rival for intellectual dominance.
Big egos look for smaller egos to consume in order to gorge themselves and make themselves fatter and more sure of themselves. It's those little battles they win against lesser opponents that give them confidence in their abilities, that allowed their egos to grow into mighty, unstoppable behemoths.
There are many layers to human communication. Not all of them are immediately tangible to those who aren't watching for them. Those who are so focused on the words and the intellectual content, often miss the important details that are really creating the action.
Right now, I have put some energy out there. I fully expected it to come back my way and expect that it will continue to do so for some time after this is over. 10 times your investment, that's what they say.
So I will pay for inventing this little drama. Usc will no doubt harbor resentment for a time. He will lick his wounds behind the glass by convincing himself that anyone that wouldn't approve of his behavior is a fool not worth his time.
Egos spend a lot of time in the mirror, and with their own minds. Like Gollum, they are their own precious. And eventually, like Gollum's precious ring, the same ego that screams that they be noticed, recognized and appreciated, will make THEM disappear...leaving a monster in their place.
Your ego is not protecting you from the other egos. It is consuming you and making you like they are.
You should let the smart, insecure little boy back out, usc. The one that was socially inept and lonely. He was a human being.
The people that treated him like he didn't matter and that were cruel to him...they were wrong. And yes, I CAN see that as not only a likely probability, but as almost a certainty. Because I've been watching you and you've just been reading my words.
Again, just because you can't see what I'm saying, doesn't mean it's not there. And this "thing to see"...is inside of your own heart. Good luck to you and no hard feelings. You just answered the call first, that's all. Now you'll likely go on posturing, and I'll probably go on writing somewhere else. I hoep it doesn't come to that. But I'm pretty sure it will. Your dog's off his leash.
Now, while there may be time available for the person behind that ego..your ego itself is pretty much like every other ego I've met or had. And as someone over on the other thread said, that would be a waste of time. Yours AND mine. Peace to you usc.
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