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girl_jane
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Guys, if you do not live with your parents, you are the ones who's opinions I'd like to have.
I met him Feb. 1. It was assumed official mid-Feb. We verbally made it official just a couple weeks ago. Last night is not the first night he's talked about it, but it was for sure the most firm. He wants me to go with him to his hometown.
His hometown is 5 hours from here. I would end up meeting his friends and family. He seems fairly close to his family.
I'm not sure how I should think of it...I've met parents before. But that's when the guys I dated still lived with their parents. I met them if I went to the house. No big deal-it was expected.
But-now-he could leave me here if he wanted. If he wanted, I would never meet anybody from his hometown.
This is completely new territory to me.
What I want to know is if *you* think taking a girl home-to the *family* home-is a not-so-big deal, a big deal, a huge deal, or really nothing much at all.
Please?
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realistic optimist
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it's kind of a big deal.
it means he wants to see how you weave with the fabric of his life.
just my $0.02
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bandersnatch
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i concer
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minnesota_chris
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it means he likes you. A good sign, if you like him. Do you like him?
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pete
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it is a good thing indeed :) i remember meeting my older brother's girlfriend for the first time, and my older sister's boyfriend.. i've never brought anyone home since i've been away.. and, well, went from one disappointment to another for the first few (read: 4-5) months.. but am quite happy now!
good luck and be happy:)
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Death of a Rose
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what are your thoughts on the matter Jane? are you prepared for this encounter?
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almostgone
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I think it is likely a good sign. Certainly it is an opportunity for you to learn more about him.
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girl_jane
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Thanks for answering so far guys-I really appreciate it. It makes me feel like maybe I'm not overreacting. I think it is a big deal. I haven't even said anything to him about him coming back to Iowa with me.
Do I like him? Oh-very much so. See my more recent blathe in get_out_of_my_head.
Am I ready for it? I think so. I'm usually pretty good with parents. I've never had any not like me...and I'm hoping this goes really well.
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sameolme
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The last time I brought some body home,
it was because my parents were looking pale and malnoireished. .I thought they could use a little more flesh in their diet. My advice is to relax and not stuggle.
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girl_jane
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Soooo...Last night he gave me the second key to his apartment. Should this be a *little* bit of a big deal?
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misstree
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if you have reason to go over there when he's not there, notsobig of a deal.
if you don't have reason, it does get to be a bit of a commitment... i'm from a school of thought where each person's space is kept very sacred, though... but it does seem a bit soon for opening that door, so to speak.
did you go to meet the hometown crew yet? i agree with realistic_optimist, it sounds like he wants to weave you into his life, and show you some pieces of his... wouldn't be too worried, unless other factors come to bear on that one.
isn't a guy but often thinks like one.
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girl_jane
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I've not met the hometown people.
As far as having a reason or not to be over there-he said anytime I want to come over-whether or not he's there. If I just want to hang out and watch tv or have a few people over...whatever...just to make sure the lights are off, the heat is way down, and both locks on the door are locked when I leave.
accepts opinions from females too!
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misstree
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do you have your own abode in which such options would be viable?
is still skeptical of the whole key thing.
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girl_jane
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I live in the dorms at school. I can watch tv and just hang out here and have people in my room-no problem. I don't know...We'll just see what happens I guess.
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silentbob
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I think its a big deal in a good way
if its official its a good deal in a big way
i was excited to meet Kats parents, and i want her to meet mine, but who knows when that will happen now
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minnesota_chris
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Ok, if you're just "seeing what happens" . . . don't be surprised if nothing happens.
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pipers
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what are reasons that you would run away from a potentially really good relationship?
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girl_jane
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My first reaction to that was "What? I'm not running away..."
Then I thought for a couple seconds more and asked myself, "Yeah. Why are you running away?"
Then I remembered why.
Protection. Because all good things come to an end. And I think this good thing would cause a nice amount of hurt.
So basically-I'm chicken.
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Casey
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Just don't sleep in the same room with him. Sleep downstairs on the couch if he sleeps upstairs and vice-versa. We don't want ma and pa thinkin' you two been havin' relations.
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$0.02
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But isn't "relations" part of a relationship anyway ?
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