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Having cum in a variety of situations and for a variety of reasons, I can testify that the only time it means anything (to me, anyway) is when there is adoration and affection involved.
Whenever I cum looking at images or videos, I feel empty afterwards. If I cum with someone I like and love, I feel good afterwards. If I masturbate while imagining, the post-coital feeling is good if the fantasy involves love and adorations, but otherwise results in any of many bored or negative sentiments.
After I cum, cumming seems rather ridiculous. So the sentiment that lingers after the fact is of paramount importance; it is an underrated and unaddressed facet of the orgasmic world.
I wonder if this is the same for others?
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So the question I ask myself is, why do I return to images and videos? (I don't _that_ often, but still.)
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Maybe because finding a mate is challenging?
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And it isn't that I feel dirty or vice-ridden....... its more of an emptiness thing. Or rather, its a "This didn't fulfill me" thing and the mental satisfaction is long gone before the physical drive returns, whereas otherwise the mental satisfaction greatly outlasts the period of physical apathy to sex...
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I want more out of my 'relationships' that casual sex. Perhaps part of it is that the Mental and - physicists shall revolt - Spiritual aspects to sexuality are so easily overlooked, so difficult to address.
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I keep having the sense that I am seeking something I knew long ago, before I was here. But in this age, we aren't permitted such thinking..... everything gets rationalized and reduced. Well, fuck 'em. That's how I feel!
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Where are you(s)?
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Fuck. Where am I!
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One Self-Induced Orgasm Later
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As if I needed to confirm what I have observed again and again, I brought myself to climax again, this time with thoughts of Higher Things. And how do I feel now, asks no one in particular? I feel wonderful. I feel crisp, I feel pleasant. The only thing missing is You, soul mate(s). And that's a big thing to be missing, yes, I miss you(s). I miss you(s) greatly and severely. But I feel as clear as one might feel after cumming alone; remarkably well, because I thought of the intangible, yet ephemeral You(s).
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Indeed it is a far superior feeling than that beheld after a mediocre one-night stand. Or even a good one-night stand, for that matter.
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they're a physical chain of events. everything else is what gives it meaning.
masturbation for gratificaiton or sleep aid vs. masturbation for ritual.
an overwhelmingly fun tumble with someone i care nothing about vs. meteoker sex with someone i think the world of.
different slices of the same apple. all have nutrition, just some have less and different than others.
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Sara and I have been together for three years but we broke for six months once. During that time I had my first and only one night stand. This girl and I talked and agreed that we would have casual sex. I had no interest really in a relationship because I wanted to be with Sara. After we had sex the girl really wanted to be with me, and I felt sooooo horrible. It just wasn't right because I didn't even know her, or have feelings for her. I was still in love with Sara. Were back together now. We were together for a year and a half then we broke up for six months, and now we have been together for another year and a half. I love her and the sex is amazing. My favorite thing is to make love and wake up with her in my arms. Now thats satisfying.
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I think male and female orgasms are probably very different (fairly sure about that but impossible to certain). For me (male), orgasm is the ultimate reward for all the lovely deep and extremely sensuous sensual feelings that take place towards that culmination. It's wonderful if these feelings can go on for a long long time, but eventually there comes a point when I either have to cum or those feelings taper away in an unfulfilling anti-climax. The point of climax is for me the ultimate high, the sugar rush, of sex. The ecstatic build up becomes unmemorable without it. Afterwards I am lost and I am vulnerable, but the memory remains and the desire - no, the compulsion to experience the whole cycle again soon becomes overwhelming. It's an addiction, I think, and probably pure animal instinct.
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i think my body is shocked when he comes inside me
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070712
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They call me Truth
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i can testify to the emptiness of masturbation, whether it be by creating a fantasy in my mind, or watching explicit videos.
I think cumming is overrated. I hardly ever remember that moment when i recall things. i remember the closeness, the warmth, the feeling of uniting with the person (of course im thinking of a person in particular.)
it probably wouldn't matter to me if i ever came (lying of course). but to feel that love, to be close enough to a person that you feel like you could disappear in them and be at peace, well, that shatters every orgasm ive ever had (even the one where i lost all control of my body).
In the end, getting off, even if it is amazing, has never measured up to being in there, to experiencing all of her, even if it is just a memory now.
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There is meaning in everything.
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meaningless_sex, sporadic masturbation and random occurrence have caused me infinitely less trouble than my attempts at meaning ever did...
funny that this topic should come up almost to the day that two of my numerous undoings began...and funnier still that i haven't completely scrubbed the effects of those years outta my head...
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