blather
not_useful
no reason i'm generally afraid to care about something, because when i do care, i care too much. and then i get afraid of scaring people, so i act like i don't care, and that makes me feel guilty. 130529
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srealisma Caring is Creepy

or, not. Get yr armor on. A shield. You need a shield. Xena. (I've never seen Xena but Berfrois tells me the actress adores them)
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no reason i'd like to be able to healthily discard the shield (attempts constantly in_progress) 130529
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srealisma yeah. well that makes sense, since you are such the waterer. one way or another, if it were me (Gemini Rising) this that and the other way of being. (not particularly original, me, but only pickin' up what seems original) (i think you're an "original" whatever that really means.) maybe what that means is the usually very painful jungian individuation, tho you're pretty early to "individuation" those jungians say it happens at 50 or 60 or something. are they just oldschool? was that the way it was for previous generations with lesser, erm, this is a a very tired word, but, liberation? 130529
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unhinged pretending my feelings don't exist
blocking myself from feeling
anger


giving my love to people that don't want
or
that don't know what to do with it
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daf I hate watching you kick yourself in the teeth with other people's feet, dude. : ( 130529
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epitome of incomprehensibility ...and sometimes I think that caring seems naive somehow. But that is just me being selfish; there's no point cultivating a "cool" image of myself, since a) me? "cool"?? and b) it is not_useful to others.

A more serious objection is that caring opens you up to taking sides, and oftentimes I don't want to. I want to do what I can for people, but not always for their causes. It depends.
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