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Aimee
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It started with my father, when he was married to my mother... he threw me across the room onto a couch when I was about 4 months old cause i was crying.
Then it was my step-father Scott. He would hit me, and he molested me when I was 3. He left me in a bath tub and I got hypothermic. He hit my mom once, and then he was gone.
By this point my brother Brian decided it was his turn... he tortured me until he graduated from high school and moved out. He ruined any hope of self esteem I had, and would pound on me when mom wasn't looking.
Then mom married again. This guy showed Brian the right way to hurt a girl's self esteem. He bought me candy and my waist line expanded... then he and brian bonded by making fun of me. One day, I wanted to go swimming, and he didn't, so he left the family.
After a few years, I began to date. The first one was Brendan. I was in love with him for four years. He just jerked me around. Told me he loved me to get into my pants and the next day left.
Then it was Will. He couldn't take no for an answer, and assaulted me. My brother Brian beat the hell out of him for it. But when I tried to thank him for it, He told me to fuck off.
After Will was Steve. He fucked with my head and made me believe I had to have him love me or I was nothing. He broke my heart so many times... maybe I broke his too... but I don't think he had a heart to break.
Then there was Matt. His idea of a compliment was "you know, if you lost a couple pounds, your ass might look kinda cute." He told the football team I'd been begging him to fuck me, when in all actuality it was vice versa. He ruined my reputation around town.. sad thing is, I'd just moved there.
Art, I hesistate to put on here. He was a wonderful friend, but he broke my heart. I still wonder if Steve was behind that.
Donald raped me. He had been tutoring me in Psychology. I refuse to ever take a psychology course again because of that. *sighs* I think he's the one who finally broke me.
I may be getting married, but it doesn't change the fact that I've known too many mean men
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TalviFatin
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As have I.
Too many assholes.
----Family----
My father: Drunken controlling self righteous lunatic.
My Uncle Bob: Same
My Uncle Patrick: Crabby, pig-headed, opinionated, depressing, jerk.
----Ex-boyfriends----
Jason: He was alright until he wanted me to fuck him at the age of 13
Justin: Same, but lied to his friends that I did.
Marc: Just wanted me to boost his reputation around the county. Also boasted falsity.
Alan: Still friends, he was great, but really liked to argue with me. Somehow always thought he was better than me.
Daniel: Threatened me with his mom.
Danny: Was a druggie. Just wanted me for money n sex.
Adam: Still friends, perhaps too close sometimes, but when I was dating him, it was all good until he fancied his cousin.
Thomas: Just wanted me in bed. He was just a cock with a unibrow. Played with my heart, tortured me, and smashed it in the end.
Ryan: I was just the rebound girl he dangled on a string in front of his ex. Wanted me in bed too.
Ryan: Silly infatuation of me. Boosted his ego I suppose. I was stupid to go along with it.
Mike: Long time friends, controlled me, tried raping me, I kicked his ass, but he still insists on a table dance.
----Current Boyfriend-----
Matt: Controlling, pitiful, desperate, makes me wanna bite him. Makes me cry alot...but somehow in the end I still love him. I must be a glutton for punishment.
That concludes the list.
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pissed off nice guy
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funny cycles there ladies. don't you think that saying something about yourself? i bet you wouldn't give us nice guys a chance, cause we're boring or skinny, senstitive or insecure or what have you, etc etc. quit your bitching and go hook up with some jock.
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girl_jane
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I've found nice boys to be...well...nice-
So, pissed off nice guy, rest assured there are nice girls who seek your kind-nice guys...
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girl_jane
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Well-the nice guy type whether you are one or not... My understanding of a nice guy would have been way more sympathetic towards they're experiences and not have told them to quit bitching. They have a right to bitch.
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Aimee
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actually, I finally found a nice guy... hence why I'm marrying him... and if you were a nice guy, you'd be sympathetic, not judgemental
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josie
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the list goes on..
Being raped by someone and being convinced that you weren't.
Being emotionally abused, physically assaulted by someone who had no idea he was doin it.
It's a vicious cycle.. he'd talk about how he'd seen it happen to his mother, courtesy of his Father and his Step-Father.. and then he'd turn around in a fit of dominant male-hood and do it to me.
I don't understand the life-cycle at all. Does that mean if i was abused by my parents that i'll do the same to my children? i could never comprehend doing that to anyone, let alone my own child.
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devalis
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Yeh, my brother's father, Lennel physically abused my mother, tried to poison me and my brother and raped my mom right in front of me. I've never met my father, but he's a drug addict. Lou, Lennel's father is a chauvanistic-pig, he likes to tell me that I can't do anything cuz I'm a girl. Brian, my mom's boyfriend that she can't get away from because she needs his financial support is the biggest asshole I've ever known. But I'm not bitching. I'm better for it.
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calmed down nice guy
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i'm not trying to be judgemental. i just think it's interesting how women can "bitch" about being around mostly mean guys, suggesting that they don't like it, then go on to repeat the cycle, dating schmuck after schmuck only to tell the world about their self-induced suffering. it's not a question of sympathy. especially for those that are truly trapped in bad situations. but girls that continually screw themselves over and are consciously aware of what they're doing, only to do it over and over again, fuck that, what can you do or say? when it comes to just simply knowing mean men, i'm sorry, i really am. but please don't think we're all that way.
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daxle
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now i get to live with one too
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oak barrel
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devalis... do you know any nice men?
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Aimee
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It's not a cycle that's purposely repeated... My mom used to say "he's read the book" which I supposed that it just meant that through their life experiences (watching how dad treats mom, friends treat their girls, etc) they think that's the way to do it. At first they're all good intentioned, or at least seemingly. Then they change. It's funny, I had a really really bad relationship with the above mentioned steve. it was break-up-make-up for a long time, and I remember thinking... "god, i wonder how long it's gonna be before he starts acting like himself again" and just getting that sickened feeling in my stomach when he finally got comfortable enough to abuse me again. It's not that we go looking for them, they find us. They put on the fake face, and keep it on until we feel safe and like it's always going to be wonderful, but then, depending on the guy, about 2 weeks to 2 months later, he's hurting you, manipulating you, and just making life unbearable. Yes, you ask, well why don't you just leave? It's a lot more complicated than that... by the point you even start considering that, they've wasted away your self-esteem and you're scared to go. they tell you " you're nothing without me" or even when they're trying to be nice (to prevent you from leaving them) " I'd die without you."
but honestly, no one goes out looking for someone who is going to make them feel like crap, and I do understand your frustrations. Men like that, give men like you a bad name, and it wrong of them. Not all guys are the stereotypical guy you see on CBS on monday nights.
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myplasticmind
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one huge experience and it fucking hurt...but life goes on and theres more out there.
*sighs*
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devalis
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Of course I know nice men, lots of them. I think having lived with mean men makes it perfectly clear to me what I don't want in a guy and that's why I only find myself with nice men. I don't really understand people who live with mean men and then somehow end up with a mean man. I think that's your call, you should know the warning signs and take them into consideration before you date them. I only date nice men. And the occasional psycho, but that's completely different.
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