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is different than accept_yourself and also from be_a_narcissist
it's a hard balance to achieve
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it's hard to do.
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yes. i was asked to list things i liked about myself, and i found it hard to find answers... often i thought more about things i enjoy doing (ie playing music) but don't necessarily consider the fact that i love music something i like about myself; i just do it.
and then there are qualities i have that i both like and dislike, probably in equal measures: intuition, sensitivity, self-awareness, etc. etc. or maybe i do like them that way, but when they get extreme (overanalysis, hypersensitivity, self-consciousness), they become a problem.
i also feel guilty listing things i like about myself, or like they might not be true unless other people think them too. i worry too much about becoming self-centered; i can already be self_involved.
it's a good exercise, though, to practise thinking about things you like about yourself, and thinking about them guiltlessly.
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realizing them guiltlessly, that is, on a more permanent basis, which could help other things fall into place
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maybe realizing them, accepting them, putting them away nicely, and living life. i dunno. please stand by.
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i've always had a hard time liking myself....
my private life....the life I escape to...drink mainly...each night...
and trying to be a good person....whatever that means today, yesterday or tommorow....
but liking myself is an obstacle.
i work....and i work to be...to understand....and to just continue.
that's fucked up.
sometimes I think
"just give me a kiss and say goodbye"
and then i want to stay.
just stay for the hope of that kiss.
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i dont like myself sometimes.
especially when i look at my actions, and particularly when i look at them from the viewpoint of others, usually after the fact. i can be pretty frickin hard on myself, but then i try to keep in mind what my true intentions were behind said actions.
"love_thyself" was a reminder and affirmation, not so much to myself really, but to others. its not what i would say i think like and feel like all the time, but i do think its true. that and i like woody_guthrie. and theres also a nice little self-deprecating metaphor in there... and if theres anyone i really really get enjoyment out of poking fun at, its myself. self-deprecation keeps me grounded.
mr_doar wrote a very nice poem to me day before yesterday (thank you!), and i was humbled and not really sure what to say... i didnt even want to touch it, lest it go to my head. i think its easy to let that happen, and i really dont want it to. i think of myself as less than a tittle in the universe, maybe even in this universe. i try to remember that. i also know what kind of power any one person, any, can have. i try to use mine, if i have any at all, with care and thoughtfulness.
i really cant stress enough how hard i can be on myself. i set some pretty high standards (of some kind) on myself. i often dont meet them.
i too worry about being self-centered, self-absorbed, etc. but i also worry about letting myself be pushed around, told how to act, behave, think and feel; being a doormat. i also worry that others might think that im telling them what to do or who to be. we all set an example, either intentionally or unintentionally. i strive to make mine a good one, it saddens me that its not always so. but i also think i can set a halfway decent example for others sometimes too. i think, like anything else, with enough time and patience, there is a happy medium to be found.
i do like myself, sometimes.
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it feels strange to talk about myself very much at all.
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myself as well thy, for everything you said, it is the same for me.
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every_one_deserves_a_chance
to feel happiness.
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sayings like "you're nobody 'til somebody loves you" don't help
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and does liking yourself = being happy?
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I think so.
I don't like myself.
I think I would like myself if I was never lazy, was proactive, always productive.
(Wasn't weak of character?)
I heard it somewhere that happiness leads to inaction. I don't know who said it.
Why would this be true?
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