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its_complicated
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heartfeltsuperego
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when my boyfriend texts a girl he used to coach wrestling - he initiates said text msgs with some regularity and doesn't tell me about it?
i think he doesn't love me
is there a difference btw "doesn't love" and "not in love"?
i think he is emotionally cheating
i think he is grooming her for to have his baby when she is old enough and then it will be time for me to leave.
even if he doesn't realize it.
she is 7 years younger than him and I (aged 29)
i had an abortion two years ago
we've been together for 10
we tried to have an open relationship last year, at his behest
it broke my heart but I still love him
he freaked out when I liked another guy as a person and not as a sex object, even though I only ever talked to the new guy on skype.
Had to quit the open relationship thing, never again to speak with the mentioned "other guy" because he doesn't want me to love another, because he thinks I will cuckold him, leave him, whatever. He said so.
I feel like he is a liar
and a cheat who toes the double standard line
"freedom for me
monogamy for you, female."
broken-hearted, slightly am I.
what do you think?
I can't talk to anyone in my life about this because they will hate him.
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don't worry,
I already think he's a female product ready for throwaway.....
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I feel so gross now reading the thing above that came out of me.
I could be wrong.
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i also think we TOW the line instead of TOEing the line.
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he will choose her over me
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heartfeltsuperego
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Feeling shallow. Then perhaps I am.
I have been reading the man's email and have browsed his phone today. He is seeing her on sunday for a drink. I don't care that he claims it's platonic.
I want to give him an ultimatum. You know the kind (it's me or her).
If he chooses her, I go to live with my parents.
Simple.
I keep asking myself incredulously, as if waking from lucid dreams "is this my life?"
I remember looking out the window of my room in my parents' then new house, out into the wailing winter winds of a largely uninhabited subdivision, anticipating his arrival. Fast forward 10 years, I am in the bed we share in a different city, anticipating his return home, but he works the night shift and I cry until I fall asleep, resolute on breakup.
I am now scared that he will choose her and that I will back out of the ultimatum for fear.
should I back out?
please forgive my ramblings
i am sadsadsad
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What are your needs in this relationship?
What are your hopes and fears?
Can you share this with him?
Is he willing to do the same?
From this foundation, perhaps trust can grow.
From that trust, newfound desire.
Or perhaps you will discover that you
are not likely to get your needs met
in this relationship, and it needs to end.
Although this is scary, it's probably not preferable to more nights spent crying and feeling like a second banana to someone he is lying to you about.
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:)
thank you
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